"You will learn why you parent the way you do, how to grow into your own parenting role, and ultimately, how to parent the unique child you have." —Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside This is not a parenting book (it's a book for parents), exploring what we bring to the parenting journey and how we can gain confidence in ourselves not just as parents, but as whole human beings. There's always that moment as a parent when you feel like no matter how hard you're trying, you just can't get it "right." But the fact is, parenting is hard and once we know this and why, we can forgive ourselves for finding it a struggle, and start to look for the things that make parenting a joy. As well as learning to parent ourselves, it will show us how to parent the child we actually have, not a textbook version, but our complicated, messy child with their own powerful needs. And by tuning into their language, learning how to hold them, not mold th